This person has distanced herself from family (over several years), her husband (they are separated) and his family and many friends and blames others for her problems. Including a husband who (she says) cant do anything right. She has continued cosmetic surgery over the past five years breast reduction, weight, and tucks, finding fault in her looks. On the contrary she is extremely attractive and intelligent. Her low self esteem has manifest itself almost into a false conceit, or maybe a false confidence. How do you get someone help or can point these things out.

Your concern is very touching. I would be interested to know what your relationship is to the woman (girlfriend or wanna be boyfriend) and the only reason I ask is because your approach to her would be different depending on your role. I included two links you can look them over and refer them to her, or you can take the info to heart and help integrate it to her situation. :) I wish you the best of luck. Here is a brief tidbit about the links I am referring you to.

FIRST one: Review of past mistakes, reclaim your self-control, gather physical strength, and make a plan. These ideas were taken from the first link below – but they make a lot of sense if you think about it. Admit acknowledge the mistakes (don’t assign or accept blame for them) — put yourself (or HER) back in the drivers seat (let her make decisions for herself based on her needs/wants) — become physically fit in mind, body, and soul — meaning eat good, exercise, drink water, pamper herself etc…. and finally make a plan on what she wants her OUTCOMES to be, and what SHE NEEDS to do to make the outcomes a reality. Be there for her and support her, but do not make the decisions for her – give her both pros and cons if she asks your opinion. She needs to be in charge of her life.

The second link is a governmental publication (an ebook) from Health/Human Svc. Mental Health Dept. it has a ton of information.