Ok well I’m going to start high school and i don’t have any confidence.I’m really shy and quiet at school but with my friends I’m like one of the most outgoing persons out there. But a big problem i have is that I’m really low on confidence and self esteem even though everyone is always telling me how beautiful and sweet i am i always feel the exact opposite.How can i get confidence and high self esteem and see myself as everyone else does?
beauty isn’t the only thing that esteem is made of…
what are you good at
what makes you feel successful
what makes you feel inspired
what makes you feel happy even if there’s nobody around…
Think about these things and write them down somewhere
stick it up on your mirror to remind yourself daily that "The worth of souls is Great in the sight of God" D&C 18:10
…or whatever Divine you believe in.
Know that beauty is only skin deep…
Your Self is who you are inside
Try finding a hobby… art, dancing, running, writing, whatever strikes your fancy…
Do something that makes you feel successful to yourself, NOT ANYONE ELSE’s OPINION!!!!
self-esteem (or feelings of self worth)
and
confidence (courage to be JUST YOU)
will Naturally follow….
Your question is a very broad one! I would suggest exercise and keeping a daily routine. Exercise increases levels of serotonin in the brain which is a chemical involved in feelings of well-being. Also if you gradually increase the amount of time you put yourself in situations that you find difficult or intimidating the easier it will become… systematic desensitization… i know easier said than done but it’s all part of growing as a person we all go through it to varying degrees.. good luck and i hope this helped!
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Uni and myself:)
Sweety this is a really tough one, as confidence isn’t something that you can suddenly just have. I know what you’re going through as i’m exactly the same. You’re only yourself around the people you are most comfortable around and have known for a while, your shy around new people, of both sexes (especially if theyre around the same age as you) as you care too much about what they may think of you. You don’t look at yourself in a negative way, however, to you there is always someone around you that is better looking, has a better personality, and is more liked, and because of this you’re always wanting to better yourself, to be more confident, more out there, weigh less, dress better, look better etc. I’m 22 and went through a tough couple of years at school because of this, however, because I could be myself around my friends, and because i had their support and understanding, I easily got through it. It does get better over time, you have to learn to trust yourself and care less about what people think of you. I know this may sound hard, but trust me, you’ll find that people will love you once they discover the true person that you are. Just learn to be yourself and you’ll be ok. Your not abnormal in any sense, a lot of people go through this as well, and you will find it gets better over time – you just need to learn how to come out of your shell a little bit.
Good luck, and just have fun being you
References :
Yes I agree, your question is very broad, I have a site with lots of info on the subject that might help, there are also other resources available there, have a look and I hope you find something of use. Failing that the science of self confidence by brian tracey is fantastic.
Best of luck
http://www.dream-life-coaching.com
References :
beauty isn’t the only thing that esteem is made of…
what are you good at
what makes you feel successful
what makes you feel inspired
what makes you feel happy even if there’s nobody around…
Think about these things and write them down somewhere
stick it up on your mirror to remind yourself daily that "The worth of souls is Great in the sight of God" D&C 18:10
…or whatever Divine you believe in.
Know that beauty is only skin deep…
Your Self is who you are inside
Try finding a hobby… art, dancing, running, writing, whatever strikes your fancy…
Do something that makes you feel successful to yourself, NOT ANYONE ELSE’s OPINION!!!!
self-esteem (or feelings of self worth)
and
confidence (courage to be JUST YOU)
will Naturally follow….
References :
"This above all: to thine own self be true…"-William Shakespeare